Aging With Purpose and Passion is the award winning podcast for women over 50 who know they're not finished yet. They're navigating reinvention, career change, retirement, relationships, caregiving, and the deeper question of what they want for their lives today.
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You've spent years proving you can handle anything. So why is it still so hard to believe in what you want for yourself?
Dr. Kim Redman, CEO of Creatrix Go Quantum and founder of Go Quantum University, joins Beverley Glazer on Aging With Purpose and Passion to explore why accomplished women over 50 can still struggle with self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and trusting themselves when facing major life or career changes.
You know how to get things done. You've managed responsibilities, made difficult decisions, and found a way through situations you never expected to face.
But now you're thinking about something different. Maybe a career change, starting a business, or finally doing something you've put off for years.
And suddenly, the doubts begin.
Who am I to do this? What if I fail? Shouldn't I be satisfied with what I already have?
Where do those thoughts come from? And why do they still have so much influence after everything you've accomplished?
In this episode of Aging With Purpose and Passion, Beverley Glazer talks with Dr. Kim Redman, CEO of Creatrix Go Quantum and founder of Go Quantum University, about childhood trauma, limiting beliefs, and the ways our earliest experiences can shape how we see ourselves decades later.
Kim grew up facing poverty, bullying, and severe abuse. She knows what it's like to learn certain things about yourself and the world simply to get through the day.
But what happens when those beliefs follow you into adulthood, long after your circumstances have changed?
We explore why knowing something intellectually doesn't always change how you feel or behave, how old beliefs can undermine self-trust, and why even highly accomplished women over 50 can struggle to believe they're capable of something new.
Kim also introduces a provocative idea: “vicious independence.” That insistence on doing everything yourself, even when support could make all the difference.
And when it comes to entrepreneurship after 50, career reinvention, or building something meaningful of your own, we talk about the importance of mentorship, coaching, and learning what you don't yet know.
If you've ever looked at everything you've accomplished and still wondered whether you have what it takes to do something different, this conversation is for you.
Because the question may not be whether you're capable.
It may be why you still feel you have to prove it.
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For similar episodes on Aging with Purpose and Passion, check out Stop Proving Your Worth, Episode 199, and Episode 203, The Price of Playing It Safe. And if you like podcasts for older women, Beyond Retirement helps you clarify what matters, reconnect with purpose, and build a retirement that's meaningful, intentional, and truly your own. That's beyondretirement.ca.
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Welcome to Aging with Purpose and Passion, the podcast for women over 50 and beyond who know much more lies ahead of them. Listen to real stories, hard truths, and life-changing choices that may leave you seeing your own life a little differently. Here's your host, work and life transition coach, Beverly Glazer.
Beverley Glazer
What if what you believed about yourself wasn't really true? Welcome to Aging with Purpose and Passion. I'm Beverly Glazer, a work and life transition coach, helping accomplished women over 50 to achieve what they want from this point of their lives on and make that dream a reality. And you can find more about me on reInventimpossible.com. These conversations go beyond inspiring stories. They're about the moments that make you stop, question what you thought you knew, and make the hard choices to go forward. We don't sugarcoat anything here. We talk about the challenges, what it took to get through them, and what became possible on the other side. I want you to meet Dr. Kim Redman. If you've ever wondered how much your past is still making your decisions today, this conversation is for you. And stay with us till the end, and I'll give you some quick takeaways and actions that you could do for yourself too. So welcome, Kim. Welcome.
Dr. Kim Redman
Thank you so much, Beverly. Thank you for spending time with us today and allowing us to support your mission of empowering women, which is so important in today's shifting world.
It sure is. But when you were that little kid, little Kim growing up, what was your childhood like?
Dr. Kim Redman
Wow. Certainly ages away. And you know, I think it's so important to keep that headspace of if I could go back and tell her things, I would tell her it's all gonna work out, it's gonna be safe. Uh, I came from families that were immigration families. There was poverty. My dad was working three and four jobs. And the goal then was my mom would say, you can grow up and be a secretary in New York City, or maybe a teacher, or maybe a nurse, but only till you had kids. And I was like, oh no, no, this is not working for me. So here you have this sensitive, intuitive, intuitive skills child. I don't fit in, I'm not popular, I have braces, I had Coke bottle glasses. This was not exactly the child that you thought, hey, let's come out with confidence. And you know, moving through being bullied and learning how to plug into different aspects of myself, my family moved until coming into my own for all of us, it's a process.
Beverley Glazer
Yeah. Sometimes, though, it's harder than others. And harder. Yeah, and and sometimes we get the support that we need, and other times we flounder. And what was going on in your life? Was it floundering for you, or did you get the support? Like, how did you struggle past those bottleneck glasses there? How did you get out of that?
Well, later on in my family, there was a lot of physical abuse, and that came through the maternal line, not the paternal line. And it involved getting tossed out before my 18th birthday. It involved being strangled, going to the other side and coming back. I mean, extraordinary things. And I will tell you there are angels in human form because at every single crisis when I thought I can't do this, somebody would show up in my life. A teacher, a therapist. Uh, when I wasn't sure how I was gonna get to college, to university, they made me a financial or legal independent at that point. And they just put me into the system. And people just kept showing up and saying, We have your next step. We have your next step, one step at a time.
But so let's let's go back a second because what you're talking about sounds so simple as you talk about it, but this was not simple. What you're saying was it was such physical abuse that you felt that you were dying.
Dr. Kim Redman
And no, no, I literally died. I left my body, I flatlined, I went to the light, and I came back. And I came back angry because it was so much love on the other side, so much passion, so much. Just I remember thinking my cells would explode if I was in my physical body. And just as I looked down, I heard my own voice say in my head, but if I go, I don't do what I came here to do. Now at 18, the rest of my brain went, what are you talking about? What do you mean to do? I had no idea what I meant, but there was just this beaming love and embracing, and then I was back in my body. So I'm not being metaphorical here. And one of the things I can tell everybody that is watching this is your past does not define you. There were medical emergencies. I had cancer and transmuted it. It took me nine months to learn how to walk again from one of the accidents. There was date rape. When I'm telling you, I am the poster child for how it happened. And now why? Why would all of this be happening? Well, working with the shamans were my first clues. This is your hero's journey. And if you are here to assist others in transforming something, you went through it first. So you go through your hero's journey early. It changed the path my life took. I had a predisposition for languages because I came from parents for whom English was a second language. I was gonna travel with the UN and translate and get paid for it. That was gonna be my gig. And then this happened. And so it I needed to find out why it happened because I'm a loved plant child. I was the first generational child, I was fond over how could this happen to me?
Beverley Glazer
Right.
Dr. Kim Redman
And therefore, I went into developmental psychology and I became a seeker and I started exploring. And none of that would have happened if I had had the la la la childhood.
Beverley Glazer
Right, right. And you worked in trauma, and you also suffered trauma.
Dr. Kim Redman
Well, don't we all? If you're in this field, you didn't get there because your life was set. This is why addiction specialists had families or personally experienced addiction.
Beverley Glazer
Okay, Wayne, I'll start you right there. I've been an addiction counselor for over 35 years. Um, no, no addiction in my family. But the reason that it drew me there. Uh-huh. Yeah. The reason it drew me there was because, first of all, my mother was a social worker.
Dr. Kim Redman
Uh-huh. So you had the blueprint in the family.
Beverley Glazer
I had the blueprint, and art was what I looked for always and studied. And legend with the native people, Indigenous people, and that's where I realized for me to understand more and help more, I had to learn. And I will make a caveat.
Dr. Kim Redman
I will make a caveat there. You had the blueprint from your mother to go in and do the deep work with social work. Absolutely. And if you didn't have that, you had to have some reason to go into what we call in the indigenous world as a West Shield healer. And if you're a West Shield healer, you are not here to work with fluff. We all wanted to be Glenda. This is the Wizard of Oz. This is this is not the magical wand side. This is the side where and I have to put another caveat here.
What we do now is so important because you don't have to get into it anymore. You don't have to go through catharsis anymore. You don't have to do it the way that I did it because we now know that reinstalls trauma. So now we have techniques that are quantum where, and that's why we can use them with our soldiers returning home, we do not need to get into it anymore. So, everyone hearing me, you don't have to go into your past that you lock down in order to survive, in order to now thrive. However, those programs that we experienced created a set point in our identity. And I call this the quantum identity statement that we have and the quantum identity assessment. And as a gift for all of your peeps, I will send out the PDF. And I promise anyone who actually fills it out, I'll have a cup of zoom tea with. And I know how outrageous that sentence sounds, but I need everyone to understand that just because it happened doesn't mean that it's authentic, but said on purpose, the brain has that as a set point, and we need to change that.
Beverley Glazer
Absolutely. And of course, all the links are going to be in the show notes in the end. But you, because of your trauma, because if you went through all your life experience and PTSD and everything else that we all label and put in boxes, you realize that there was a different modality, a different way of getting from A to B to get out of it. And we have so many different modalities as a therapist. It's there's so many different ways. And we know that we don't have to go back to Freud and go right back to our original roots. It's a lot of people.
Dr. Kim Redman
So here I'm gonna say this all modalities work. However, they don't all, they're not all effective in the same place. So if you need a talk therapist, you want to go to a talk therapist. You need to transform the program, then the part of the brain and the mind, specifically, that's working with those programs is the unconscious mind. And it has a toolkit that almost nobody talks about, but it's the toolkit of the area in which we want the change to happen. So I want to direct the conversation to saying, you know, and I had 20 different modalities and degrees, and and yet when I was a student with these tools, my PTSD spontaneously remiss. And that changed my life. Because all the noise, all the energy that was going to maintain it disappeared, and it allowed me to begin using that energy to create the life that I desired.
Did you ever want to be a business owner and an entrepreneur? Because that's now a completely different way of developing. Yeah.
Dr. Kim Redman
I really didn't. Although my husband jokes that I had entrepreneurial genes back from when I was a teenager in a babysitting business. Although moving it forward, no, I didn't. What happened was that one step at a time, once I took the tools and then became an institute valid in 40 countries, I realized there was nobody else in the country doing this at the time. And so it became an issue of well, if I want to help people, I need to figure it out. And this is where mentors are worth their weight in gold. They really, really are. And they assisted me in building what I call a transformational business that happened to include a few trainings, not a training business, because we work so deeply and so intimately. We have graduates coming back 15 years later and going, can I just sit in on a class? I'm like, come on in, you know, uh, with community. So it again, I started this business in a basement apartment at the kitchen table while our daughter went to school. And that's when it started. And when she came home, it was mom time and there was no business.
Right. And you know, many women do exactly that. We start different businesses or we pivot. I know I'm working with many different women that reach a certain point in their life that I want more, I want to be able to change, I don't want to be stuck in a cubicle my whole life. And even if I'm leading a team, this is not where I want to be, or I'm gonna be retired eventually. So, but change is so hard, and it's hard for many reasons. Why do you think it is?
Dr. Kim Redman
I'm going to answer that in a slightly different trajectory. Change is easy, it's instantaneous, it's getting to the point of the change that takes us forever or ever. And this is because of that uncertainty principle: the devil you know versus the devil you don't. We have an identity, and that identity came through the wounding, and it said, I'm not enough, I'm not strong enough, I don't know enough, I couldn't earn enough, it's all about whatever version of the not, you know. Right. And you know, you and I have spoken about yes, you are enough, absolutely, and you know, Tony Robbins likes to say that business is a science and joy is an art. And I'm paraphrasing here because making money and making money in this field of serving others, people are spending more money now than they have at any other time. So here's the problem: you have highly creative artistic people who decide they want to assist others and no structure and no understanding of how to do leverage, a return on their investment. They're gonna do it all in vicious independence.
Beverley Glazer
Yes
Dr. Kim Redman
And therefore, they have to recreate the wheel and fall in every pothole on their own. And right, right. I don't have the time to do that.
Beverley Glazer
No, I don't think anybody has the time to do that. And this is this is the thing, you know. We have to know what we want. And if we're sitting in our mindset, we need someone, we need a coach, we need a direction, we need somebody to just give us that little push. And I say push, it's not motivation, no, it's not push, it's a little push to say yes, and to remind you also that you have done hard things before, right?
Dr. Kim Redman
Right, and you know, and when we're so here we need coaches.
Beverley Glazer
I mean, I have three of them, and same here, and that's not because I am sick, and I'm using those words. I always say nobody really needs a coach, right? We have to want to be able to make changes in our lives. We want, have to want to say, I want better.
Dr. Kim Redman
I want, I want different, I want ultimately. We say your own higher self can be trained to be your best coach. However, do you really are you in vicious independence? And quite frankly, are you coachable?
Beverley Glazer
A hundred percent. Yes.
Dr. Kim Redman
Right. Coachable means you're going to take, it's like making cookies. I'm going to take the family recipe for the cookies, and I'm gonna make the cookies exactly how the recipe says I'm not gonna skip uh steps or throw in different ingredients until I have it down. Then I'm gonna shift it, but by then I probably won't want to because I have the recipe down. And you know, women want to be in independence, and there are places where we're not supposed to be. This is why we had mentorships and co-ops. And my dad worked on Wall Street and he would take his protege under his wing. Success has always been a process where we are plugged into other people of success.
Absolutely. I'm really glad that you said that. Yes. Coaches, it seems like a new word and a new world, and only athletes had coaches. And it's not about that, it's that our times are moving so fast and things are happening so fast that we need the support, and we need to be able to grow faster rather than just sit in our worlds and stay. Right. I don't like to use the word stuck because it is such a coachy word, but it's not about stuck, it's where do I want to go and how do I do it? And in my world, that's the strength. Yes.
Dr. Kim Redman
Because in my world, nobody's stuck. They have a gap in skills. They think they're stuck because in the world that they lived in, in their box, they can't figure it out, except where they want to go is in a different box. So there's a gap, there's a gap in skills. And, you know, in neuroscience, we talk about whether you have a growth mindset. And a growth mindset says, I'm gonna start from the premise that I don't know and I can learn from other people, not not in a hole in the corner in you with only YouTube. Um, a fixed mindset says, I'm gonna go sit on the couch only with YouTube and I'm gonna stay in my comfort. Nothing grows, not a seedling, not a muscle, not a neuron, not us. Nothing grows unless it's under a certain amount of pressure. Now we can moderate that pressure, but if you're not willing to undertake that pressure to get your goal, then you need to stay in a job. Because being an entrepreneur, which includes coaching, by the way, means that you have to put these systems in place yourself that other people in other companies are already using. And I'm not talking about a click funnel, I'm talking about strong systems that'll support you. Because here's the deal about being an entrepreneur the reason we do it is ultimately to get freedom.
Beverley Glazer
Yes.
Dr. Kim Redman
And if you're exchanging time for money, you do not have freedom.
Beverley Glazer
Yes. And the interesting thing is a lot of people say, I want to be an entrepreneur and have freedom, but what is that? They can also think that freedom means not working. And that is so not true.
Dr. Kim Redman
Yes. It's not like that old song, you know, love to work in the oven all day taking care of business. No, that's not it. You're going to work in a very if you are a self-starter, this might be for you. If you want to lead and you're willing to be uncomfortable and keep a learning headset base, this is probably for you. If comfort is driving your goals or your lack of goals, then entrepreneurship is not for you.
For sure not. What would you say to someone who wants something different, but is afraid to fail, Camp?
Dr. Kim Redman
Right. Well, there's a reframe. And I love science for this. There are four stages of learning, and it's like being at a new job. You don't know what you don't know. That's the first step. And then you start, you go, holy bleepity bleep. Now I know that I don't know. And you get trained. And that's the step most people stop at. And therefore, there's two things I would say. First is let's do your quantum identity assessment and let's figure out what programs are running in your brain that are keeping you way outside of what you need and want now in your life. Because new life, new programs, or at least amended programs. I mean, we do that with our phones. Why wouldn't we do that with our brains? Number one. And number two is find someone in your field specifically that's highly successful. And do what they suggest that you do to build the business to whatever level you seek. Because success might be a side gig. One of my girlfriends worked for the military and she got into the field so she could buy her husband a motorcycle on the side. And then the motorcycle became a boat, became a plane. You know, you get you get the deal. You have to define what that means for you now at this point in your life and why. For me, it meant I didn't have to worry about college or university costs. Daughters, it means being able to help the kids when they're married. It means different things to different people.
So leave us with one last, I wouldn't say last word, but what would you tell people listening who would like to change who are listening to what you have to say and say, you know, I don't know, I'm not so sure. I'm not so sure. I am afraid. I'm taking the risk and I am afraid of making change.
Dr. Kim Redman
Sure. Totally understood. Um two things. The first is what you want has to be louder than your fear. And the second thing is, can we have a cup of zoom tea? And just chat and figure it out. You know, it might be different than you think it's going to be. Might be the same. Who knows? You know, invest in a cup of tea with someone. It's a it's a good starting step. And let them create a map. No one makes change without a map. Yes.
Yes. Thank you, Kim. Dr. Kim Redman is the CEO of Creatrix Go Quantum and the founder of Go Quantum University. She's an international speaker, a best-selling author, and the founder of Quantum Leadership. Her work combines neuroscience, ancient wisdom, and coaching. And she has received a leadership award nomination, including Canada's 100 most powerful women and top Canadian CEO. Here's some takeaways from this episode. Your past may have shaped you, but it doesn't define your future. You can be good at what you do and still want changes. And often the biggest thing that's stopping you is the belief that you've been carrying for years. If you've been relating to this episode, here are a few things that you can do for yourself right now. Break an old belief that you've been living with since childhood. Don't take your skills for granted. Be curious where they might serve you somewhere else. And stop judging yourself. Notice where you're hiding and take small steps to get you where you want to go. For similar episodes on aging with purpose and passion, check out Stop Proving Your Worth, episode 199, and episode 203, The Price of Playing It Safe. And if you like podcasts for older women, Beyond Retirement helps you clarify what matters, reconnect with purpose, and build a retirement that's meaningful, intentional, and truly your own. That's beyondretirement.ca. And so, Kim, where can people find you? Please share your links.
Dr. Kim Redman
Absolutely. They can go to creatrixcoquantum.com. They can send us an email. We will put links. I'll send them over to you. We are on LinkedIn. We're on Facebook. We're on Insta. Pretty much any place you can put in Dr. Kim Redman and find us. Please reach out, send me a message. I will happily, happily answer it. And by the way, myself, our team still answers them all. It's not AI. Just saying.
Beverley Glazer
Terrific. And now, my friends, what's next for you? What do you keep telling yourself that you think you're too old to do? I'll challenge that. Send me a message. I'd love to hear from you. And if this episode spoke to you, subscribe, share it with someone who may need it. And remember, you only have one life. So live it with purpose and passion.
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